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Your coworker scans as
The Gossip
MILD TRAITS · A HUB, NOT A STRATEGIST
They hear everything and repeat most of it. Some triangulation and information games, but not much sabotage. This is someone who trades in gossip because it makes them feel central, not a planned campaign against you.
Typical trait profile for this readout. Your own scan will differ.
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WHAT TIPPED IT · THEIR ANSWERS
What this readout means
Gossips create chaos without necessarily intending harm. The danger is that they become the channel through which everyone’s words get distorted, including yours. The practical response is to starve the channel: give them nothing quotable and get your important information through direct routes.
WHAT YOU CAN DO
- Assume anything you tell them will travel. Keep it work-only and boring.
- When you hear “they said X about you,” go to the source and ask. It defuses the game.
- Don’t compete for their favor. Their attention is a currency you don’t need.
WHAT TO SAY · SCRIPTS FOR THIS READOUT
How to raise it
- “I heard you mentioned my conversation with Priya to the team. I’d rather that stayed between us.”
- “I heard something came from you about me. Can we talk about it directly?”
- “If you have a concern about my work, I’d like to hear it from you, not through someone else.”
How to set the line
- “Going forward, I’m keeping our chats to work stuff. Nothing personal, it’s just how I operate.”
- “I’d rather get updates from the source. Can you loop me on the thread instead?”
- “I don’t want to talk about Marcus when he isn’t here.”
When they push back
- “I’m not accusing you of anything. I’m telling you what I need.”
- “Maybe it wasn’t meant that way. Either way, I’d like it to stop.”
- “I’m going to check that with them directly. Thanks for the heads-up.”
Say them in your own words. The point is to have something ready before the conversation, not to read from a card.
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