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PAIR SCAN · AM I THE NARCISSIST SCANHEAT 3/5

Person A

The Main Character

Together you scan as

The Double Bill

MILD + MILD · TWO LEADS, ONE STAGE

Workable

Two big personalities who both want the last word. It’s fun, loud and competitive, and outsiders love being around you. The trouble is nobody’s listening: both of you are waiting to talk, and neither is used to being the audience, so fights are about credit more than substance.

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Person B

The Main Character

What this pairing means

Two mildly grandiose partners tend to have high energy and high friction. Research on similar-trait couples finds they understand each other’s need for recognition, which helps, but they compete for the same supply of admiration, which doesn’t. This pair goes right when you turn the competition outward and become each other’s biggest fans. It goes wrong when every dinner becomes a contest and both of you feel unseen by the one person who should see you.

WHAT THE TWO OF YOU CAN DO

  • Make a rule: whoever has the win gets the whole evening. No “that reminds me of when I” stories.
  • Ask one real question and wait for the whole answer. Time it if you have to.
  • Compete against the world together instead of against each other. Same energy, better target.

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